Will the big fat Indian wedding be a thing of the past?


Susan working on a bride

Toronto, April 1 (CINEWS): The second-generation South Asian is increasingly opting for wedding receptions that reflect their own styles rather than that of their parents. They are smart, hip and happening. These well-educated professionals hold down good jobs, work hard, party hard and are increasingly reliant on a professional Wedding Planner to bring their vision to fruition. Can-India caught up with Susan Ramroop, who gives us the skinny on what you can expect at an Indian wedding in 2016.

What’s your day job so to speak?
I completed my MBA in Marketing at Wilfrid Laurier and am a Marketing Manager at a tech company. I am a Certified Wedding Planner (WPIC) and started my own wedding planning company called Beyoutiful Beginnings. It’s my passion, something I enjoy. It allows me to be creative but it is really hard work.

How did you become a wedding planner?
I was on the Event Committee all throughout high school and university. I was inspired to become certified from my cousin that took the course before me through the Wedding Planners Institute of Canada. Thinking back to my sisters wedding back in 2003 that was 700+ guests, it would have good to have someone there that did all the running around instead of our families – and that’s essentially what I do today!

Why are South Asians marrying much later?
In general, people are marrying much later because they have prioritized their lives differently. Years ago, the trend was to get married at 25 and have kids by 30. Today, we live in a world where people want to establish themselves and build their careers before they settle down. Even being able to travel the world has become a priority before couples tie the knot. Because of this, we’re finding that people are now getting married at 30 and having kids at 35.

Are arranged marriages in decline among the better educated and those with good jobs?
Yes they are. Most people today will look to their friends, co-workers, and rely on online dating. In some cases, arranged marriages do happen, but the couple will date first to see if they like each other, versus getting married based on seeing a picture.
As well, because people are more educated now than before, most people want to find someone that has established themselves. People, especially women, are more independent now than they used to be, making it harder to settle down later in life.

What are the wedding trends that appeal to second-generation South Asians?
Couples want to meld tradition with the modern and will go that extra mile to customize and creating a wedding that truly represents them.
Instead of holding their receptions at large banquet halls, more South Asians are open to having them at venues like museums and aquariums. Also the wedding season isn’t the only time they will get married, November is now becoming a trend, and winter weddings are more common than ever. Brides prefer to wear dresses to reception, traditional is co-existing with modern
We’re seeing the trend where brides are fusing Eastern and Western clothing for their receptions. The “ballgown” style lengha is what is currently in style
Fused weddings, is the trend where different cultures and customs are blended together.
Busy professional are heavily reliant on their wedding planner to get it right. Guest lists are often limited to close family and friends.
Today young South Asian couples are increasingly looking for that wow factor everything from vinyl to LED floors, to candle and water walls is on the table.
I’ve done weddings where the couple had a Civil ceremony and then we added on the main elements from a Hindu ceremony – Jai Mala’s, seven steps, and Mangal Sutra. Because we live in a society where we’re moving away from traditional mindsets, it’s not uncommon for someone to marry out of their religion.
Some couples even want games placed at each guests tables, such as online options like Mad Libs or Heads Up.
Guests are being greeted with appetizers, followed by dinner, but are now also being followed up with late night stations, such as poutine and McDonald’s!

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