Thousands of mostly second-generation South Asians use online dating sites to find dates and perhaps even a soulmate.
In fact a recent study showed that online dating is now the second most popular way to meeting a partner.
According to eHarmony Australia’s 2015 Relationship Study, 22 percent of those surveyed say they met their current partners online, second only to meeting people through mutual friends at 24 percent.
While it is very likely one will find a soulmate through an online dating site, it is also quite likely one can find a conmen or women who are quite capable of taking you to the cleaners as one South Asian woman found out.
In an exclusive interview with Can-India, Harjeet Dhillon shares an experience she hopes will serve as a cautionary tale to other men and women out there.
“It all started when I decided I was finally ready to move on from a failed relationship and start afresh. The first guy that I met just so happened to be in the area at the time and readily available to meet me. He told me some story about being from south of Orillia and wanting to relocate to my area.
The Indian in me desires a long-term commitment, but the cautious side of me thought that there was something odd about him. He wouldn’t stop calling me and told me to stop talking to my friends because they weren’t looking out for my best interests. One night I was at a friend’s house and we had an argument and I started to believe him.
We met. He appeared to be very sweet and as most guys do would pick up the tab at most places. I did a google search which returned up nothing other than a LinkedIn profile. He had revealed a lot about his financial situation and told me that he owned a home which he had planned on selling by the end of May, besides he had invested in paper making machinery, which was a guaranteed investment. When I mentioned applying for a line of credit to pay off my debt, he suggested I put it towards the paper investment. Of course I was cautious but two weeks had gone by and not only was I vulnerable but I trust easily. I see the good in everyone and find it hard to believe that someone could be so manipulative and calculating (even though I suffered an abusive marriage). The situation spiraled out of control where he would constantly “borrow” money from me for investments. I was taking loans out and taking money off my credit cards. He promised to pay it back and I believed him. When I needed the money he fed me lies and stories that he didn’t have any or it was tied up in escrow. Currently I have disconnected his phone (since I had put it under my plan) and have not heard from him. I wish that I had done my due diligence and followed my gut. I had requested his credit report, birth certificate, passport and driver’s license but for some reason didn’t review them.
My sister had done a google search on him and results returned that he has already served time in New Zealand for allegedly scamming an elderly couple out of over $100,000 to support a gambling addiction. As silly as my story sounds, it is true.
I know that I am not the only victim so please beware of not just him but anyone. With social media access to information is so easy and anyone can chase you because they know what you do. As much as social media sites can help support you in your career, they can also hinder you. -CINEWS
Can-India has not attempted to track down the alleged man for his version of events because there is no way to find him, and since the victim has willingly gone on record to state her recollections of what happened, we have simply provided her a platform that might be helpful to other people using online dating sites.